The Scientist

You want to know what REALLY pisses women off?? I'll get there, but background first. Sit tight, it's gonna be a ride.

Doctors are scientists: observing, testing, documenting, reading, reviewing and HOPEFULLY then treating. Like all good scientists they love data. Data is the thing that sets your "body aches and tummy hurts" apart from an emergency appendectomy or other treatment like soup and a hug. There are good doctors out there, plenty of them who care about patients and want to see us thrive. To those caring and intelligent (both emotionally and mentally) individuals, you have my eternal gratitude. Really, you are good people and insurance companies make you look shitty daily so please take this to heart. You do good work. Thank you. There are also, and this may sound a bit indelicate, a bunch of fucking assholes who don't want to look dumb so they dismiss your symptoms as "girl problems" that they don't understand and can't fix so it must be just normal stuff that you will just have to deal with because... Girls.

That last group is either disinterested or doesn't understand that what you're giving them in desperate hope of being treated or feeling better at some point in life is one of your most valuable possessions, your data. For free, or in the US you are actually PAYING to give your doctor your data and those jamokes will many, many times just sit their with it, not doing a GODDAMN thing. Either they don't know or can't be bothered to LOOK at your fucking data and make an EDUCATED GUESS (also called a diagnosis) and help you find a treatment. This is one of the things that I will NEVER understand about people. I understand neurodivergence (pretty sure I'm on that spectrum, she said with a wink). I will never understand a trained professiona, who is TAUGHT how to be curious and help people doing NEITHER of those two things and still getting paid. You LITERALLY took an oath that said you'd help and not hurt. Well GUESS THE FUCK WHAT???? Not hurting is NOT the same as helping.

You want to know why women many times stop going to the doctor? Because the not caring hurts just as much as the symptoms. We're not coming to you for the fucking lollipops, though those don't hurt and thanks. Having little bits of data that get dismissed as not important or not enough to diagnose and not treating the whole is KILLING women. Sometimes slowly, sometimes not.

Honestly, a healthcare and research system centered around equity and not patients is one of the top culprits. If money is the only reason you want to help people, then you are the problem. All the money in the world can't make up for lack of empathy and curiosity. Just look at the Nazis. They fucking sucked at research and now they're forced to live in the shadows because of all the evil and genocide. All the riches they stole, well it didn't make them better doctors OR better people, for sure.

OH, OH!! And let's not forget the whole EVERYTHING CENTERS AROUND REPRODUCTION phase of life which pretty much sums up from teen to menopause. If you're not wanting to pop out babies or find out why you can't pop out babies or make sure you absolutely CAN pop out babies in the near future, well then your data is just women being women. All mysterious and shit. What diseases might you have? Who fucking cares if you're not a vessel for the seed.

What really pisses women off? Being left out of clinical research for our whole history coupled with the number of fucking Viagras and Viagra-knock off treatments on the market while we sit here suffering and dying from "natural causes". I mean, we GET IT! Your dick is important to you, and you deserve medical care for your illnesses. See how that works. Empathy.

Just to be clear, your penis is rarely going to kill you, while our inner workings are maliciously plotting our demise on the regular. And don't forget our issues and treatments being boiled down to "just lose weight" for over a century. That bullshit right there will send us on a tear every damn day.

Good chat. And hey, Chris Martin can write a fucking song, can't he?

Nobody said it was easy
It's such a shame for us to part
Nobody said it was easy
No one ever said it would be this hard
Oh, take me back to the start

-Til the last drop, N